I hold my hands up, I used to be guilty for constantly thinking this. There’s too much to do, If I have spare time there’s always housework, children, friends and family to check on or pets to look after.
I get it, it’s true.
But, I wonder… If we spend our time looking after and pleasing others, why do we feel it’s not important to show ourselves the same kindness?
It took me a long time to realise that self-care is not selfish, its taking time to look after myself a little so I can be the best version of myself.. and who doesn’t want that?
The technical term is.. “Self-care is the practice of consciously doing things that preserve or improve your mental and physical health”. .. Which basically means individuals taking control of their own health. Taking control in itself has benefits, taking control of yourself and your thoughts and actions can immediately help you feel good and more positive so just taking little steps can boost your mood!
Research tells us that self-care can reduce stress and anxiety and boost your self-esteem.. treating yourself better encourages you to see yourself as a better person. Studies have found that individuals with higher self-esteem find it easier to deal with setbacks and are more likely to achieve personal goals. Self-esteem releases a feel-good hormone called dopamine which is nicknamed the “motivation molecule” which is associated with learning, focus and attention. Looking after yourself WILL make you feel better, and the better you feel the better you can be in all areas in your life from work to relationships.
Self-care can help you be more attuned with your body’s needs. It DOES NOT have to be a huge time commitment and it DOES NOT have to cost you money.
It is easy to say sleep eight hours, feed your body with all the good stuff exercise and meditate… I mean if you can, or want to go for it.. do it!
However, you can start off with small things such as, walk to the post office instead of taking the car, set you alarm fifteen minutes earlier to have your morning coffee in peace, take a bath instead of a shower. Say no, telling someone you can’t help them with a task doesn’t make you a bad person it gives you more time for yourself which can help you not only with your self-care but also with your confidence. Whatever you can do to help you, give it a try. You deserve to be the best version of yourself and not just for others but for yourself too.